Spot Your Patterns Like a Therapist --- Have you ever changed all of the characters and somehow kept the entire plot? New relationship, new job, new city, new promise to yourself that this time will be genuinely different — and then six months later your nervous system leans over and whispers, haven't we seen this episode before? Patterns matter because human beings gravitate toward what is familiar, and familiar and healthy are not synonyms. Sometimes familiar means I know h

Challenge Your Beliefs Like a Therapist --- Your brain operates on rules, and some of them are excellent. Fire is hot. Gravity remains undefeated. Do not respond to the email promising fourteen million dollars from a prince you have never met. Others are considerably less reliable. If someone is disappointed in me, I did something wrong. If I fail, I am a failure. If a person leaves, it proves I am unlovable. If I need help, I am weak. These beliefs rarely announce themselves

Identify What You Need Like a Therapist Human beings are spectacularly bad at asking directly for what they need. Instead, we hint. Withdraw. Become resentful. Overfunction. Get angry. Say, “I’m fine.” We are very frequently not fine. Try asking: What did I need in that moment? What did I hope they would notice? What did I want them to say? What feels dangerous about asking directly? What do I want but believe I’m not allowed to need? What am I requesting

What are the economic costs of post-traumatic stress disorder? The economic consequences and costs of PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress...