LIKE A THERAPIST: Challenge Avoidance

Avoidance works beautifully—right up until you notice how small it has made your world.

Avoidance deserves some credit.

It works.

Don’t attend the party? Anxiety drops.

Don’t make the phone call? Relief.

Don’t confront the problem? Ahhhh.

Unfortunately, the bill arrives later.

Ask:

• What am I avoiding?

• What feeling am I trying not to experience?

• What does avoidance give me today?

• What is it costing me over time?

• What am I waiting to feel before I act?

• What would I do if I trusted myself to tolerate discomfort?

• What is one step small enough to take while still afraid?

The trap is waiting to become fearless.

You may wait quite a while.

Often courage doesn’t mean:

I am no longer afraid.

It means:

Fear is coming with me, but it doesn’t get to pick the destination.

And sometimes the critical question is:

When I avoid this, what am I choosing instead?

Avoiding the conversation may mean choosing continued resentment.

Avoiding driving may mean choosing a smaller geographical world.

Avoiding vulnerability may mean choosing loneliness.

Avoidance is still a choice.

Which means another choice may eventually become possible.

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Excerpt: Avoidance works beautifully—right up until you notice how small it has made your world.

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